Today I shall ask the question that confuses me greatly. Why are there so many men who are completely pussy-whipped? Don’t get me wrong; I believe pussy is a perfectly valid incentive for men to do what they do, but to elaborate, why are men completely pussy-whipped by bitches?
I will admit, I am very selfish and think I should have my way essentially always, but having my way does not generally in any way hinder my man from having his way, except for the occasions when he wants to take naps. (I understand as one get older, a person may need a nap, but at 40?) What I am talking about is when women try to change a man in such a way that only benefits themselves, and NOT the man. And why do men put up with that?
For example, my ex-hubby has a friend who is in this situation. Perhaps a year after he was married, this friend, (who we will call “Bob”) came over to drink with us at my ex-brother-in-law’s. I was carrying on and having a lively old time when my hubby came over to me and told me I should go give “Bob” a hug because he was crying in his beer. (literally) So I went on over to “Bob” and gave him a big ol’ Sparklebumps hug, and he proceeded to bitch about his wife for the next little while. He carried on about how she yelled at him all the time, and how she never wanted him to have any fun unless she was there, and how he was going to be in trouble tomorrow because he was out drinking tonight without her. In my drunken state, I nodded and gave my honest opinion, “Yes, well, you have to realize that not every girl is as fun as me.” This seemed to make him feel better, (because he was drunken and of course it made sense) and the next day, he went home to his wife and told her we did It. (which was not true and most definitely NOT my point) Anyhoo, that story is for another time. The point is that instead of divorcing her nagging, controlling ass, he moved on to have 3 more kids with her. Maybe he likes her better now, or he just realizes that if he was to leave the child support payments would be killer, but what possessed him to stay in the first place?
Another example is my friend, whom I love dearly, but after listening to her bitch about her boyfriends for the past 12 years, I would never consider wanting to marry her. She is a great girl- she’s pretty, indepedent, and has a great job, but every single boyfriend she’s ever had she has tried to change and control, (which is why I believe she is not yet married). Perhaps they were just not “The One”, who knows.
A few years ago, she was “dating” (fucking) a man who was from a different country, and who had stated in the very beginning he would never consider marrying her because his family wouldn’t approve. Yes, he was a momma’s boy, but if a man told you that would you stick around and try to change his mind? The entire relationship was spent in a cloud of argumentative bliss, she trying to convince him to be a better boyfriend, and then reprimanding him passionately when he refused. She broke up with him, he broke up with her, they got back together… you know. The point is, why would any man in their right mind put up with that? She has since found a new man, but bugs him constantly about buying her a ridiculously uneconomical engagement ring.
A final example is my ex-hubby. No, I am not referring to his time with me, as I have already proved that I won’t stay around if someone doesn’t want to change for me. (And anyway, I’m awesome) I am speaking of his current relationship. I occasionally get texts from him, in which he informs me of the latest going-ons, and he has stated to me that she runs a tight ship and he’s not sure he wants to marry her because she is that way. WHY WOULD HE STAY WITH HER?!
There are just as many a-hole men out there too. (Just to prove that I’m not being sexist.) But seriously, what makes a man want to deal with a bitch?I believe that men (and women) should indeed compromise and change for their partner in ways that are beneficial to both parties. I don’t think one should ever “be the boss” of the other, as that seemed to spark resentment, and anyway, if you wanted to spend your life being bossed around, why wouldn’t you just work? I don’t think a man should ever have to say, “She won’t LET me.” XOXO
Sparklebumpsthebookwhore 
I know from experience that most people who are whipped stay so for a little while, and then go off like a pressure cooker…….not in a nasty violent way or anything (although Im sure there are those who do) I know for me when I go off, itll be a ‘right, sit down Ive got some things to say and you arent going to like them’ sort of speech
So what you should really do is go home and say, “Listen up, bi-atch. I’m a-gonna do what I want and you can just suck it.” 🙂
Hmm…I guess, when it’s good it’s really good? xD
I’m not in a relationship right now, but…I definitely wouldn’t want to force somebody I love to change to suit my needs. I wouldn’t want them to change at all in the first place – what’s the point of falling in love with someone just to change them? : / Doesn’t make sense.
Maybe sometimes people think they’re falling in love with somebody, but really they’re just falling in love with how they want that person to be…and a lot of people jump on the wagon to make vows because it’s the next logical step – Not because they’re sure that they want to be with that person forever, and be able to cherish, and support that person. A lot of people just like the idea of being a “married couple”, and to be able to say to other people that they’re “married” to each other – without really understanding each other’s differences, and how to share a life together and things like that.
Bob’s wife sounds quite insecure…maybe she doesn’t have a life away from him, but yet he does…so she feels threatened? (I mean, I don’t know the whole story, so can’t make any proper assumptions, but she is definitely insecure)
Yes, they live in the sticks and have 4 kids, so Bob’s wife doesn’t have a life outside of home, which is really sad. And as I was just telling my Rockstar last night, “Married is nice but that doesn’t solve all the problems in a relationship.”
I can delve into all the possible psychological reasons men put up with controlling women (and women put up with controlling men), but why bog everything down in a haze of academic voodoo? Suffice to say that awesome people generally don’t put up with that kind of nonsense for very long and, if it continues, they move on to find other awesome people (as you have pointed out). I can’t save the wusses of the world, although they would probably do whatever I asked of them.
The only reason I can think that people put up with it is because the sex is good, although in alot of the cases I’ve come across, that kind of hard to imagine….and anyway, that’s not a good enough reason.
Heres one for you. I am whipped because I generally like to live a quiet life and make people happy. So rather than say ‘ no chance I dont want to do that’ and cause a scene or an argument of some kind. I generally let her do what she chooses to do. IF I feel strongly enough about not wanting to do something then I will say so. I do hate being whipped. It stresses me out, it gives me cause for concern and I know that by me keeping quiet about many issues its only hurting me. And yet I still do it.
Now and again I dig my heals in and basically turn selfish for a short while but I soon revert back to the whipped me. I
So, I wonder how many confessions you got from guys that are whipped.
From my post? only you so far. In real life? More confessions than I can count. It makes me wonder why they just don’t tell their wives what they tell me.
I have no idea why men but up with those types, but I suspect they’re also men who secretly desire having a Mommy figure around (not in a sick incest way, but a ‘take care of me’ way, which is sick too). I DX’d my first wife for the whole thing you blog about. I was tired of being her project, and left. I have a brain and I’m not afraid to use it.
I wonder if that’s the main reason why women get broken up with, because I personally have never been dumped. And was that a reference to WWE? Cuz that’s awesome if it was…