So, yes, it’s very sad that I had to go back to work after giving birth to be able to find time to write again. What the fuck.
I’m not complaining, I promise! After all, for almost four whole weeks I got to hold the cutest baby of all time whenever I wanted. (I know all parents say their kids are the cutest, but besides for mixed-race babies, my kid really is the cutest. And yes, I’m aware of how politically incorrect that sounds, but it’s true, and you all know it.)
Anyhoo, I know it’s a bit overdue, but I am now ready to inform you all of the grisly story that is called childbirth. I am quite certain there are a few (or more) of you that just winced and clicked on your mouse madly to exit my blog at that last sentence- well, fuck you. I had a person come out of my vag, and proper attention must be paid. Those of you still here- I appreciate your iron stomachs. I promise, it won’t be as bad as all that. To be honest, there’ve been episodes of Sons of Anarchy more cringe-worthy.
So a week and a few days before my Babe was due, I hobbled to my weekly doctor appointment. I say hobble, because my feet were so swollen that I had to buy a pair of flip-flops two sizes larger than my normal fabulous footwear, and said flip-flops STILL managed to cause deep impressions on the tops of my feet. Trust me, the pain it caused me to walk into a public venue sans heels nearly rivaled that of childbirth. Anyway, I digress.
While I am not known to be a person of chill and apathetic demeanor, my blood pressure on a normal day is like that of a dead person’s. However, on that day, the sight of my feet and the readings of my blood pressure were enough to get my doctor to schedule me to be induced the following Monday. If my feet would have allowed it, I would have immediately jumped up and futterwackened at her announcement. (If you don’t know how to futterwacken, you don’t know much, do you?)
I spent the weekend occupied at work, and during the night when I was unable to sleep, engrossed in the final chapters of every pregnancy book I had sitting around. When my coworkers asked if I was nervous about having my baby come out of my most private and tight of areas, I replied calmly and coolly that I wasn’t, which was the truth. For some reason, that was never an issue for me. My biggest fear was that I would cave, and ask for an epidural, the thought of which is probably what sent my blood pressure soaring in the first place.
My Rockstar and I arrived hellishly early at the birthing center that Monday, where we met up with my dearest Auntie, who I had asked to distract me from my labor pains when I knew my Rockstar would sit by silently. I was admitted and led to a room, where we met an Angel known as Nurse Nancy, my guide for this tour. She went over all the details I needed to know, none of which I recalled (then or now). I only remember being very adamant that an epidural was not going to be an option, so there. She laughed and said, “Ok, but you can change your mind.”
I was then hooked up to an IV (another thing that makes me recoil in fear) and donned a lovely hospital gown, which caused me almost immediately to “Patch Adams” everyone in the room. At first I was embarrassed, and then I thought, Fuck it. It’s gonna get so much worse before this is all over. It was several hours before I actually felt any contractions, during which time my Rockstar, Auntie, and I conversed amiably about I don’t even know what. It was quite boring really.
When my contractions began to worsen, I asked for the pain meds that were not the epidural. All I know is that Nurse Nancy had described it as feeling like you’ve had one too many drinks. Since it had been a good nine months since my last drink, I said, “Fuck yeah, get me drunk!” What I didn’t realize is that while a person is actually drinking, and may fall down or bonk their head with no immediate anguish, this drug administered did nothing to lessen any internal pain that comes with active labor. All it did was knock me on my ass immediately, so that I was very like a dead person, at least until a contraction hit, at which time I was too “drunk” to stand up and properly deal with that shit. So the last hour or two of excruciating contractions were spent alternately sleeping and writhing in the birthing bed. Good times.
When it was time to push, (this time did not come soon enough to my liking, as many minutes before that I felt as though my ass were going to explode) the only thing I actually remember thinking was that I didn’t want my baby to have a pointy head, so I pushed him out with no thoughts of how painful it might be. (Which actually made me not notice whatever pain there was.) The only mishap of acting so rashly was that my IV got torn out, which sucked balls. During the birth, I had instructed my Rockstar to stay at my shoulder, so as not to damage whatever idolization he may have had of my previously practically perfect pussy. Between pushes, I was pretty much out of it, but aware of his hand being reassuredly placed on my forehead. (Awwww.)
Once my Boy slid out, they plopped him on my chest, and proceeded to torture me mercilessly. It seems that my placenta was stuck, ( something my doctor who had been birthing babies for 25 years had never seen) and the previous Angel known as Nurse Nancy became my tormentor. Previously, I had thought very little of her considerable weight. Just then, I thought very much of it, since she seemed to be placing every extra pound of it on my stomach, the stomach that just went through countless hours of contractions. Up until that point, I had shed no tears, but as stoic as I can be when it comes to pain, there was no way I could stop the tears that leaked out of my eyes. Between having my belly pushed on, and having a hand shoved up me fishing around, and having my new baby on me without me being able to enjoy him, I broke down. They ended up replacing my IV, (which didn’t go in the first three times) just to give me another dose of meds known as the Shit That Puts You to Sleep. In other words, when my friends and family came to greet my Babe, I ended up sleeping, and awaking in a sort of drunken haze that was accompanied by slurred words.
Overall, having a whole person come out of me isn’t nearly as horrific as it sounds, but having a stuck placenta is a thousand times worse than it sounds. But, losing 24 pounds in less than a day and having an adorable Mini-Rockstar made it worth it. That doesn’t mean I’d do it again. I much prefer the making of children over the growing and birthing of them. After all, I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t.